Last reviewed on 9 March 2021
Even though you’re back at school, college or university, you might feel like the COVID-19 restrictions are still putting your life on hold.
Losing normal contact with people you care about can be really stressful and frightening so, in this article, Good Thinking answers some of the questions you might have. You might also like to listen to our podcast with Amber Newman-Clark of the charity Brook and visit the Brook website for free and confidential advice about your sexual health and wellbeing. The free Student Health App and International Student Health App might also be useful.
It’s perfectly natural to feel this way when you can’t see someone who you is important to you. Stay in touch by phone, text and online and be open about how you’re feeling – they probably feel the same way too. Find some activities that you can do together remotely, like watching TV with your friends on Teleparty or challenging each other on Xbox. It’s also a good idea to find other things to focus on, like exercising regularly or learning a new skill.
We know it's very difficult not being able to see some of the people you care about. With vaccines and more testing being rolled out, there's a greater hope of a return to normality so hopefully you'll be able to meet up soon.
Although young people are at low risk of becoming severely ill from COVID-19, you’re not alone if you’re worried about your health and that you might pass the virus on to someone else. When we did asurvey with Partnership for Young London and TikTok earlier this year, we found that the majority of young respondents were very concerned about putting their loved ones and wider community at risk.
One good tip is to focus on what you can control. You can’t control the virus but you can follow social distancing guidelines to reduce the risk, you can stay connected to people remotely and you can find distractions, such as exercise. Find out more in Good Thinking’s article about dealing with stress and our podcast about OCD.
As the COVID-19 restrictions might change, keep an eye on the UK Government website so that you know what the latest rules are – you don’t need to do any more or any less than the guidance says. Good Thinking’s podcast with Professor Kevin Fenton of Public Health England might also be of interest as it explains why the guidance is so important.
It’s OK to say no if you don’t feel comfortable doing this. One of the key features of a healthy relationship is respecting the other person’s beliefs and choices. Try to have a conversation where you each explain your viewpoint and discuss why you feel like that. Is there a way you can meet up without breaking the rules (e.g. going for a walk)? There are also lots of things you can do remotely to help you stay close. Could you video chat more often or even send each other letters?
With so many apps and social media platforms available, it’s important that you understand how to use them responsibly and how to protect your personal information. You’ll find lots of useful tips in Good Thinking’s podcast about online safety and on the BBC Own It and UK Safer Internet Centre websites.
There are lots of organisations that can support you if you’re feeling lonely, anxious or stressed, including:
If you’re currently receiving professional support for any mental health concerns, talk to your counsellor or therapist about how you’re feeling.
If you need advice on contraception, gender, sexuality or anything else related to sex and relationships, the Brook website is a great place to start.